Happiness is living in the moment. I know happiness is within. I know I have the choice to choose how I feel at any given moment. But for some reason I cannot sustain that. I don’t have any real problems, just an inability to attract a sustained loving relationship. How do I attain happiness if at this moment I am unfulfilled? How does one focus and meditate on hopes and desires and let go of incessant thoughts about all the things that are absent and unfulfilled. You speak a lot about detaching from the outcomes of your desires . . . but how does one really let go?
Answer
First I’ll begin with the question of “How do I attain happiness if at this moment I am unfulfilled?” You need to recognize the false premise your unfulfillment is based on. You are assuming that you can’t be happy or fulfilled unless certain external conditions are met, such as a loving relationship. Yet above you said you understood that happiness is within and living in the moment. If you are simply in the moment, then you aren’t placing any demands on how things have to be – you are simply being there with it.
When you say you can’t be happy because you don’t have a partner, you are making your internal state conditional upon external circumstances. That isn’t living in the present. By orienting your perspective and sense of wellbeing to operate from the inside-out, instead of the reverse, you find perfection and fulfillment in the ever-changing moment. In this way your silent witness is not only detached, but at the same time your sense of purpose is also fully engaged in creating the life you want according to your life purpose.
Love,
Deepak
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